Midwest Maiden

A 20something playing the game called life

My Best Friend’s Wedding October 31, 2009

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My best friend’s wedding was last weekend.  This is the first time I’ve had a chance to write a post about it.  This past week was one from HELL!  But, I’d much rather talk about the wedding.

 

It was great.  I had a ridiculous amount of fun.  I’d really been looking forward to it and was a little worried that I’d hyped it up too much in my head but it lived up to my expectations.  We took a livestock trailer from the wedding to the reception!  In case you’re unaware,  a livestock trailer is pulled by a semi!  There were bales set up in it for us to sit on and coolers of alcohol.  I admit, I was a little skeptical about it – I thought it would be cold and bumpy but it wasn’t at all. 

 

I’m not usually a huge dancer because I suck at it but seeing as how I was in the wedding party, I was sorta obligated to dance the whole night (at least that’s what I told myself).  Granted, I was drunk before we even had dinner so that probably helped my inhibitions.  I got to dance with an ex-boyfriend of mine; I’d actually consider him my first love.  We dated on and off all throughout high school.  He’s engaged now and his fiance (who is a crazy headcase who’s faked two pregnancies – one that “ended” in abortion and the other that “ended” in a miscarriage; yes, he knows this and is marrying her anyway) was there of course.  The dance was nice – we caught up on what the other had been doing since we saw each other last  Then, at the end of the song he definitely slapped my ass.  I was just thinking, “yeah, that’s right, I still got it.”   :)

 

After the dance we went to the nearest town that had an open bar and continued the party without the bride and groom.  I eventually crashed at the bride’s parent’s house.  The next day we met up at the reception hall to clean up and open gifts.  That probably seems irrelevant but it was actually a highlight for me.    It’s when I really got to hang out with the man of my dreams.  He lives with my friend’s parents and has totally become part of their family (he met them because his soon-to-be-ex wife went to vet school with their other daughter).  He is the biggest sweetheart.  There’s three girls in my best friend’s family and all three swear they would snatch him up if they weren’t already married.  He’s a farm boy, a hard worker, great with kids, comfortable in the kitchen, funny as heck, and smart.   Smart is hard to find in a small town boy.  He joked to my friend’s mom that she needed to have one more daughter for him.  In high school I always complained that she should have had another son for me.  Coincidence?  I think not!   :)   Really though, nothing will ever happen with him.   He’s still heartbroken over his wife leaving him and there’s no way I could compete with all the women who want him.  But, sometimes it’s fun to let one’s mind wander…

 

My friend’s family says the song “Big Green Tractor” sums up this guy – a farm boy but romantic also.  I had never heard the song before the bachelorette party but it’s my favorite at the moment.  So, I just have to share the lyrics here.  I can’t get enough of the song!

 

 

She had a shiny little beamer with the rag top down,
Sittin’ in the drive but she wouldn’t get out,
The dogs were all barking and wagging around,
And I just laughed and said yall get in,
She had on a new dress and she curled her hair,
She was looking too good not to go somewhere,
Said what you want to do baby I don’t care,
We can go to the show we can stay out here,

And I can take you for a ride on my big green tractor,
We can go slow or make it go faster,
Down through the woods and out to the pasture,
Long as I’m with you it really don’t matter,
climb up in my lap and drive if you want to,
Girl you know you got me to hold on to,
We can go to town but baby if you’d rather,
I’ll take you for a ride on my big green tractor,

Said we can fire it up and I can show you around,
Sit upon the hill and watch the sun go down,
When the fireflies are dancing and the moon comes out,
We can turn on the lights and head back to the house,

[ Jason Aldean Lyrics are found on www.songlyrics.com ]
Or we can take you for a ride on my big green tractor,
We can go slow or make it go faster,
Down through the woods and out to the pasture,
Long as I’m with you it really don’t matter,
climb up in my lap and drive if you want to,
Girl you know you got me to hold on to,
We can go to town but baby if you’d rather,
I’ll take you for a ride on my big green tractor,

Just let me dust off the seat,
Mmmmmm put your pretty little arms around me,
Hell yeah,

You can climb up in my lap and drive if you want to,
Girl you know you got me to hold on to,
We can go to town but baby if you’d rather,
I’ll take you for a ride on my big green tractor,

Oh yeah yeah,
We can go to town,
Or we can go another round,
On my big green tractor.

 

 

Mama Mia! August 8, 2008

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I saw “Mama Mia!” last night.  It was GREAT and I’m usually not a musical person! 

 

The lyrics of “Mama Mia” totally sums up my thoughts about Hunter.  I use lyrics a lot in my blog posts – music just hits home with me I guess.  A lot of times lyrics say what I’m feeling or experiencing better than I can.  This song is just so perfect.  It made me really stop and think, ”Wow! That’s totally how I feel about Hunter!” 

 

So, here are the lyrics.

I’ve been cheated by you
since I don’t know when
so I made up my mind: it must come to an end

Look at me now, will I ever learn
I don’t know how, but I suddenly lose control
there’s a fire within my soul

Just one look and I can hear a bell ring
one more look and I forget everything
Woah!

Mama Mia! here I go again, mama how can I resist ya?
Mama Mia! does it show again, mama just how much I missed ya?
yes i’ve been broken hearted, blue since the day we parted.
mama did I ever let you go?
Mama Mia! now I really know, mama I could never let you go!

I’ve been angry and sad
about things that you do.
I can’t count all the times
that I told you “we’re through”

when you slam the door
I think you know that you won’t be away too long
you know that I’m not that strong

Just one look and I can hear a bell ring
one more look and I forget everything
Woah!

Mama Mia! here I go again, mama how can I resist ya?
Mama Mia! does it show again, mama just how much I missed ya?
yes I’ve been broken hearted, blue since the day we parted
mama did I ever let you go
Mama Mia! now I really know, mama I could never let you go!

Mama Mia! here I go again, mama leave me now or never
Mama Mia! it’s a game we play, mama doesn’t mean forever
yes I’ve been broken hearted, blue since the day we parted
mama did I ever let you go
Mama Mia! now I really know, mama I could never let you go.

 

The Trouble With Love Is…. August 1, 2008

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That is my new favorite song!  Some chick sang it beautifully last night at karaoke.  I know I’ve heard it before but for some reason it really hit me last night.  I think it rings so true, at least for me.  I’m not a fan of songs that talk about love like it’s this great, wonderful thing because it just feels fake.  Yeah, it can be great and wonderful but sometimes it just plain sucks.  And, I don’t like songs that just rip on love and wreak of bitterness.  While I do feel that way about love from time to time, I do obviously think it can be great.   Like I said, this song just totally fits how I feel about love at this point in my life.

 

For instance, love can be great.  I was ridiculously happy with Hunter.  Though I must say that roses and diamonds have absolutely no impact on my romantic feelings for someone – I’m rather against material things like that actually.  But, it will fool me.  I put up with way more than I should (not just with Hunter – with pretty much any relationship I’ve been in).  Pride goes totally out the window for me after a major break-up.  I grovel, I beg, I try to deal – whatever is necessary to not lose that love.  So many times I’ve wondered how I could ever get over a particular guy but like “they” say, time wounds all heals. Hehe.  There are other lines I could comment on – really, all of them hit home to me in some way or another – but I’m tired and I’m sure you get the point. 

 

The Trouble With Love is

Kelly Clarkson

Love can be a many splendid thing
Can’t deny the joy it brings
A dozen roses
Diamond rings
Dreams for sale
And fairy tales
It’ll make you hear a symphony
And you’ll just want the world to see
But like a drug that makes you blind
It’ll fool you every time

The trouble with love is
It can tear you up inside
Make your heart believe a lie
It’s stronger than your pride
The trouble with love is
It doesn’t care how fast you fall
And you can’t refuse the call
See you’ve got no say at all

 

Now I was once a fool it’s true
I played the game by all the rules
But now my world’s a deeper blue
I’m sadder but I’m wiser too
I swore I’d never love again
I swore my heart would never mend
Said love wasn’t worth the pain
But then I hear it call my name

 

The trouble with love is
It can tear you up inside
Make your heart believe a lie
It’s stronger then your pride
The trouble with love is
It doesn’t care how fast you fall
And you can’t refuse the call
See you’ve got no say at all

 

Every time I turn around
I think I’ve got it all figured out
My heart keeps calling
And I keep on falling
Over and over again
This set story always ends the same
Me standing in the pouring rain
It seems no matter what I do
It tears my heart in two

 

The trouble with love is
It can tear you up inside
Make your heart believe a lie 
It’s stronger then your pride
(The trouble with love is) It’s in your heart it’s in your soul
(It doesn’t care how fast you fall) Your losing your control
(And you can’t refuse the call)
See you’ve got no say at all
The trouble with love is (Oooh yeah)
It can tear you up inside
Make your heart believe a lie (the trouble with love..)

 

 

It’s not you, it’s me June 12, 2008

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Yesterday Hunter was majorly on my mind.  Not knowing why he didn’t want to try to work things out – why I didn’t mean enough to him to work harder – was driving me crazy!  I *needed* to understand all of the why’s.  I immed him basically begging him to explain why he felt the way he did.   He said that there was nothing wrong with me, I was perfect and that I deserve better than what he can give me.  I just don’t get at all where he is coming from.  He insisted that he just couldn’t explain it – he didn’t understand it himself.  It was still driving me crazy though.  I asked him if I could call him after 9 p.m.  and he didn’t reply before I got offline (I’d been doing the mobile im thing with him and the communication had been sporadic up to that point).

 

But, 9 o’clock came and went and I had no desire to call him.  Okay, I may have had a flash of desire every now and then but it was easy to suppress.  All of a sudden knowing the why’s didn’t bother me so much.  It’s finally dawning on me that the problem really may not have been with me.  My therapist tried explaining that to me but I just couldn’t see it then, and I can’t say I totally see it now.  Maybe he is actually is the one who’s confused or just not ready or whatever.  Maybe it doesn’t really have a whole lot to do with me not being enough.  Most of today I’ve been good with the whole thing but like other days, there are moments here or there that hit me kind of hard.  With these emotions that change minute-to-minute, no wonder my doctor wondered if I’m bi-polar.  If only I was lucky enough to experience those kick-butt manic episodes!  (I know that’s a flip comment and before anyone jumps down my throat for not taking the illness serious enough, trust me – I know the tragedies of it). 

 

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One of the times I really started missing Hunter today was when the song “Teardrops on my Guitar” by Taylor Swift was on the radio.  Granted, it’s about a guy who finds another girl but there were certain lines in it that hit home with me. Plus, with such a huge part of me wondering if he’ll hook up with Alicia or Sarah now, it still feels like it fits, even though it technically doesn’t.  Ironically enough, this is one of my more favorite songs at the moment and when my previous boyfriend and I broke-up (whom actually did dump me for another girl) listening to it didn’t phase me a bit.  Anyway, here are the lyrics, with the ones that really hit home in italics.

 

Drew looks at me, I fake a smile so he won’t see
That I want and I’m needing everything that we should be
I’ll be she’s beautiful, that girl he talks about
And she’s got everything that I have to live without

Drew talks to me, I laugh cause it’s so damn funny
That I can’t even see anyone when he’s with me
He says he’s so in love, he’s finally got it right,
I wonder if he knows he’s all I think about at night

[Chorus:]

He’s the reason for the teardrops on my guitar
The only thing that keeps me wishing on a wishing star
He’s the song in the car I keep singing, don’t know why I do

Drew walks by me, can he tell that I can’t breathe?
And there he goes, so perfectly,
The kind of flawless I wish I could be
She’d better hold him tight, give him all her love
Look in those beautiful eyes and know she’s lucky cause

[Repeat Chorus]

So I drive home alone, as I turn out the light
I’ll put his picture down and maybe
Get some sleep tonight

He’s the reason for the teardrops on my guitar
The only one who’s got enough for me to break my heart
He’s the song in the car I keep singing, don’t know why I do
He’s the time taken up, but there’s never enough
And he’s all that I need to fall into..

Drew looks at me, I fake a smile so he won’t see.