It’s often said that homosexuals have a “gaydar”. I’ve often wondered if kinky people have a kinkdar. For obvious reasons, it’s far more difficult to prove or disprove the kinkdar theory than the gardar one. There have been a few individuals and couples through the years that I’ve observed and wondered about but considering it was always in a vanilla setting, I never had the opportunity to find out if my suspicions were correct.
Until now.
I can now say I’m 1/1 in the kinkdar category. Well, it wasn’t so much that I suspected she was into kink as I was pretty confident she wouldn’t judge me (plus, I was totally getting a bi vibe from her, and maybe a tiny kink vibe). Who is this mystery woman, you ask? My massage therapist. I’ve been going to her monthly for 4ish months and we clicked right off the bat. I’m pretty sure penis’ came up in my first session with her. After a couple sessions (in which we spend the ENTIRE time talking!) we both very subtly hinted that we were also interested in women. It is my hypothesis that women who admit to being bisexual are often more open minded about all things sexual. So, when I was telling her about the “margin of error” guy and she asked, “What made him think you wanted him to seduce you?” I admitted I found him on a sex site….then admitted it was a kinky sex site. Then she revealed her boyfriend is into it so they’ve been experimenting with it for awhile.
I told her about Fet and how it’s supposed to be more like a kinky facebook than a sex hook-up site. And I even told her my screen name on the site, which links to this blog. After I told her I kind of backtracked and regretted telling her about my online identity because I put so much personal (and sometimes embarrassing) stuff on here. Most kinky guys I’ve hooked up with in recent history know about the blog because they found me on Fet. Otherwise, I have one friend who I socialize with in the vanilla world who knows about my blog, Lisa. She’s got two kids now and is super busy so I highly doubt she ever reads this. Plus, we only ever talk about vanilla stuff anymore so it’s not like it ever crosses my mind that she would even know about what’s on here. But now this woman who I who I pay monthly to touch my almost naked body has access to my sex life!
I have become more comfortable with the fact that I told her. With only a couple exceptions there’s nothing on here that I’d really be embarrassed by her reading. While there is absolutely nothing sexual between the two of us and even though it seems that we are into different types of kinky things, us having this in common is going to make getting massages that much more fun! I had forgotten what it’s like to have a friend I can be honest with about it. Yay! 
