Yesterday I did something that probably isn’t the smartest thing I’ve ever done (okay, definitely not the smartest thing). In the middle of the afternoon on a whim I texted Hunter a note that simply said, “wanna fuck?” Classy, eh? Much to my surprise he said maybe, depending on how tired he was after work. I honestly hadn’t even expected him to reply. I’d texted him on his birthday and maybe once or twice since then and hadn’t heard anything. I didn’t let myself get too excited about it because he obviously has a history of not following through with things like that. But, he did end up coming over.
We sat down on the couch and there were a couple moments of awkwardness (at least I thought so, I don’t know if he felt it or not) – this was the first time we’d seen each other since we broke up and we both knew sex was inevitable. But soon he just wrapped his arms around my leg and curled up on my lap, much like he did in the past. When he did that the butterflies in my tummy went absolutely crazy! I can’t describe how great it felt to have him in my arms again. At the same time I was having all those warm fuzzy feelings, I was also thinking about how bad the whole situation could be – because of the warm fuzzies.
We eventually fell into a routine of sorts and the warm fuzzies were replaced with pure horniness. Gosh I love the noises he makes when I hurt him. I just couldn’t get enough! I know it sounds stupid, but I hadn’t expected a whole lot to change as far as the sexual aspect of our relationship was concerned. But, I felt like there was a fair amount of intensity missing. It was just sex – for both of us. Yeah, we wanted each other and had missed each other’s bodies but the emotion was gone, which had a bigger effect on things than I was expecting. Plus, I think the fact that the D/s *relationship* component was missing had a large impact. We were having D/sish sex, but he wasn’t *mine* – there was no genuine power exchange present (not that there really was the first time around ’cause he didn’t do half the shit I asked of him). I felt like I had less control which impacted how into it I was far more than I was expecting it to.
I’m not convinced it would be like this again if we get together though. My mind wasn’t in a domme mindset for the most part. In the past when I was with him my mind was reeling with cruel ideas of things to do to him. Last night I couldn’t really think of anything beyond clothespins. I think that could change though, if we saw each other every once in a while. Last night was our first night with our new dynamic – fuck buddies not bf/gf. We’ll have to re-establish our comfort levels with one another and as we adapt to the changes between us, the better it will get I’m sure. That’s assuming we continue to get together, which who knows about that.
I was a little worried about seeing him again – worried that all of my not-that-old feelings for him would all come flooding back. But beyond the initial butterflies, they have stayed away. We cuddled for quite a while after sex and by the time he said it was time to leave, I was ready for him to leave (in the past if it had been up to me he never would have left!). Today I don’t feel anything different for him than I did before. Both he and I were concerned that my feelings would get in the way of having a fuck buddy type relationship. At this point, it looks like we don’t have anything to worry about.
It’s all good

